Whether you are about to embark on the divorce journey or have already filed and put the process into motion, transitioning from a married spouse to an independent, single person is challenging. Even under ideal circumstances, where both parties have decided peacefully and mutually to call it quits, there is no getting around the emotional impact that accompanies the end of a marriage.
Key Choices that Will Empower You to Move On
If, like many people experiencing divorce, you just are not sure how to cope with the end of your marriage and feel overwhelmed transitioning into life without your spouse, experts from Psychology Today tell us the answer to recovering and bouncing back lies collectively in the following key reminders:
- Do not carry the weight alone. It is natural, in the midst of divorce, to want to hold everything up on your own, without burdening your friends or family or sharing personal, often painful details about the split. Asking for help can make a big difference in your mental health and the overall grieving process, however. Do not be afraid to ask for help with the kids, request an extra day or two off from work from your boss, or seek out professional counseling services.
- Resist the desire to avoid. Avoiding the divorce in any capacity will actually slow down, not speed up, the recovery process. Experts tell us that rejecting the need to grieve robs us of the ability to move on and find new happiness. Recognize your feelings, and do not push away or ignore the normal negative emotions that accompany divorce, like anger, sadness, and resentment. Acknowledge each emotion and allow yourself to be upset.
- Give yourself a break. Perfectionism runs rampant in the face of divorce. All too often, people are too hard on themselves, adopting the mindset that there is something wrong with them or that they could have done something differently to prevent their marriage from unraveling. Along with allowing yourself to grieve, psychologists also stress the importance of being kind to yourself and focusing on self-care. Recognize you are human and that everyone makes mistakes, especially under pressure and severe stress at home.
Recovering from divorce is never easy, but you can bounce back healthier and happier when you look after your needs and show yourself the same compassion you would show anyone else. Speaking with a skilled DuPage County divorce attorney to help you handle the legal aspects of the split can ease your worries over the technicalities of divorce, allowing you to focus on taking care of yourself. Call Roscich & Martel Law Firm, LLC today at (630) 793-6337 to schedule your initial consultation.
Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/contemplating-divorce/201004/how-long-does-typical-divorce-recovery-take
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/having-sex-wanting-intimacy/201607/the-most-important-steps-bouncing-back-breakup